My daughter is a people pleaser

Query: My daughter takes a lot of time to open up. And even when she opens up, she is all the time making an attempt to please people. Even in her good friend’s group, she all the time agrees with what others say even when she doesn’t really feel that manner. How can I assist her be her personal particular person?

Response by Dr Rachna Okay Singh: It is comprehensible that as a guardian you’d need your daughter to develop as much as change into a particular person together with her personal thoughts, who can decide conditions and make her personal selections with none exterior affect. However, kids undergo phases the place they discover themselves nearer to their pals and friends slightly than their mother and father. They additionally consider their pals to grasp them extra and therefore belief their selections and selections. In different circumstances, kids really feel pressured to simply accept and go along with their pals’ selections as a way to slot in.

While this is not unusual, it is essential to verify your daughter is capable of converse for herself, and this could solely occur if you converse together with her, not as a guardian however as a good friend.

Making her perceive that she as a person is distinctive, valued and liked and that her selections matter will make her extra assured in going after what she desires, even when it is in opposition to her pals’ needs.

People usually are likely to care about others’ happiness over their very own, when they don’t really feel assured in themselves. While confidence comes with time, ensure you groom your daughter in ways in which helps her shine and really feel stronger. This can occur by serving to her pursue hobbies and duties she is keen about. People usually are typically most assured once they take pleasure in what they’re doing and are good at it.

While we perceive that it is not simple to all the time perceive your youngster particularly if you really feel they aren’t opening as much as you, one must also understand that kids usually want their very own time and house to belief their mother and father. So ensure you are there for her when she wants you however aren’t over asserting your self in her life.

Hope this helps. Please be at liberty to get in contact with me in the event you want extra help.

Dr. Rachna Khanna Singh is HOD – Holistic Medicine, Artemis Hospital, Gurgaon, Relationship, Lifestyle & Stress Management Expert

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